After a bit of brainstorming, I realized she had two faux fur vests that she couldn’t live without. Seriously, each and every day kind of can’t live without! I decided to take her beloved vests for one week. I gave her a proper warning stating clearly what I expected her to do, not do, and how she needed to choose to change her attitude if she wanted to keep these vests. If not, they would be destroyed. Unfortunately, she chose to not change her attitude and her blatant disrespect continued to show up. After a week’s time, the exact warning time I previously stated, I knew it was time to follow through. (Follow-Through: Isn’t that the key to all success? Parenting included!)
I pulled the two beautiful white faux fur vests out of their hiding place and prepared for a spectacular show. She came to me crying, asking me, “Mama, are you going to take scissors to them and shred them into pieces?” I looked at her and said, “That’s a really great idea! But no, that’s not what’s in store for today.”
I escorted her outside where I had safely put together a small fire pit; the vests were on top. I poured a little lighter fluid on them, threw in a lit match and began to watch as they went down in flames. She looked at me in disbelief and tried to run away. Finally, I told her to come back and watch what her bad choices had brought about.
I could see in her eyes that she was sad and mad. It also confirmed that sometimes it takes a creative consequence, a big production, for her to never forget that I am serious and that I follow through!
Remnants of one of the vests. If you look in the lower left corner you can even see a zipper!